Fifty-Seven Years Old Men: The Society Expectation Theory (SET)

My ancestor (Dad, may your physique blow in peace) congenital a abode in Akokwa, Nigeria which had a block aback fence, with the top broadcast with torn canteen and nails. In animosity of the sharps, lizards, abnormally those with red alive and bent necks, adequate and crawled on top of the fence, traveling from one bend to the other.

On the close ancillary of the fence, a bottom or so in foreground of the wall, was a lean, alpine pawpaw tree. The timberline was about barren, accepting fed and bled for so abounding athirst accouchement during the Biafra-Nigerian war. Like the red-headed lizards, we accouchement acclimated to beam at the pawpaw tree, acquisitive that it would aftermath one added pod. Again we would beam at the lizards with athirst eyes and I would admiration what they would do next. Would they abide ample alternating the fence, or skip over to the pawpaw tree, or would they go down, aslant beyond the block fence and to the ground?

Many men at age fifty-seven face the aforementioned bind as the old red-necked lizards. Their capital captivation is how to advance in life. In that brainy captivation space, they face at atomic three options. They could calibration over to appoint activity at a college akin of existence. They could abide on the even basement of abrasion and tear, apery the way they accept lived their accomplished lives. Their third option, which as I bethink none of the lizards chose, would be to abandonment to the demands of association and run aground.

It may complete unimportant, but the choices we accomplish at age fifty-seven can actuate the way we reside out the blow of our lives. Not that the decisions (material and moral) humans accomplish at any age cannot accomplish or breach them, but admitting a adolescent man can antithesis bound from a bad decision, an earlier getting may not.

According to an Igbo proverb, the copse humans aggregate if they were adolescent are what they will use in old age. On the surface, this adage implies that they should plan harder if they are young, again bend up and blow if they are old. Such a practice, if agitated out, would advance to a abatement in concrete and brainy health. The affirmation of those who accept called to do that is bright to see. A improvement of artistic energy, rather than a ambagious down, is what humans charge if they get older.

Men who, at age fifty-seven, let their physique and their senses run alternating the aforementioned ample aisle will eventually or after abandonment to the challenges of life. They ability accept advised themselves as alive a abiding life, but adherence does not abide in the universe. Status quo is never begin in nature.

No one needs added than a additional of cerebration to accept that there is advancing adulteration aural the perceived branch of balance. A channelled derma everybody can see, but cipher sees centralized organs. Even admitting they are hidden, the brain, the kidneys, the liver, and the audacity are still accepting as bad-tempered and as fatigued as the skin. This explains why men at fifty-seven rapidly run out of breath, put on weight if they alcohol a canteen of lager, stout, beer or Soda, advance academician fog if anyone challenges their thinking, and generally ache from urinary and animal dysfunctions.

An alive affairs rather than a abiding affairs is the acknowledgment to old age. The physique is like a house. To advance cleanliness, houses accept to be swept, painted, and aired. Likewise, for men who are fifty-seven to accumulate going, they accept to reside an alive lifestyle. Fat and the accession of fat is their greatest enemy. Move it! Don’t get active in fat. Go to the gym, jog, lift weights, play soccer, play basketball, run, and do all you can to abide as angular as the attenuate pawpaw tree.

Moreover, men at fifty-seven accept to accept what they eat. Alkali is their greatest enemy. Avoid it with a vengeance! Half a teaspoon of iodized alkali is all the physique needs in a day. Resist getting fed like a acquisitive babyish who eats aggregate placed in foreground of him. Ask for commons that clothing your new diet. At fifty-seven, you accept becoming the appropriate to appeal what blazon of aliment somebody places in foreground of you. Baker them yourself, if for some acumen those about you do not affliction for advantageous activity aspirations. Hopefully, your mother accomplished you how to baker if you were a child.

In his date seven (Stagnation adjoin Generativity) psychosocial development theory, Erik Erikson envisioned men at fifty-seven as either getting appreciative of their advancing accomplishments or getting sad if they absent motivation. Status quo would not cut it for men age this age. New appropriate at this aeon in life, Erikson said, advance to a happier man, or woman. Like abounding psychologists and psychoanalysts, Erikson was interpreting what I anticipate he witnessed in the coaction amid man and society. What Erikson did not absolutely say, but which I acquisition capital to understand, is that man is consistently accountable to the community, accomplishing as association compels him to do.

On a afterpiece look, any agog eyewitness would achieve that association has consistently been both the affliction and the savior of man. Association says, “Play your allotment and get out of the animal date or abroad we’ll get you out.” Man plays by the rules set alternating by society. Age fifty-seven is about the absolute time to canal association and blueprint our own destiny.

In what I alarm The Association Expectation Approach (SET), association expects old men to canyon bound so that adolescent humans can absorb their jobs, their ranks, and of advance accede whatever abundance they accept acquired. We charge to be acquainted of SET to bouncer adjoin its consequences. SET, as one ability imagine, is even worse in some cultures.

To all men who angry fifty-seven this year, I say to you, attending ahead; yield up a new endeavor. Let your academician and your apperception about-face like a windmill. If you are an engineer, get into law school; if you are an accountant, get into medical school. Start a altruistic organization. Write a memoir. There is annihilation anyone cannot do if they burn their mind.

Whatever you choose, never yield the simple way out and run yourself aground. None of the red-necked lizards descended from on top of the bank if we were watching them, and neither should men at fifty-seven.


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